Changing habitsChanging habits : Here’s a Quick Way to Understanding Changing is a Process Some people think that life is permanent, where things will never change and the things that happened today will be the same tomorrow or the day after. What they failed to realize is that nothing is permanent in this world except change. And if you think you can’t cope with change, maybe these tips can help you get through. Accept Change as a Reality  Most people may have pre-conceived ideas of what lies before them, what will happen in the future, and what to expect based on the things that are happening. However, problems take place when a person, whose pre-conceived ideas are fixed, experiences change, whether drastic or anticipated. This is because people who don’t accept change as something that is real will have difficulty in adapting. Therefore, it is advisable that change should be accepted as true and evident. Change is a Process Change is rooted in the field of psychology, where behavior, mind set, and personal perspectives are taken into consideration. Experts say that for change to take effect in its most effective manner, the individual must learn and understand that it is a process. Usually, change appears as a three-step process. While others may have different categories on each stage, still, change can be boiled down to three stages. 1. Decision making The first stage is decision making. Some experts say it is the stage of unfreezing; where pre-conceived ideas or the so-called mind set are taken apart and the individual is compelled to overcome passive actions and be interactive. The greatest action an individual can make is when he makes decisions. When making decisions, you have to consider several things. To adapt to change, you have to avoid defense mechanisms. In this situation, people who are more defensive often reflect on how they despise change. They don’t want to let go of their old ways. However, when people are ready for change and have decided to accept it, they are more than willing to try new things and are more open to new information. 2. Preparation To effect change, you have to learn how to prepare for such occurrences. Experts say that things are more bearable if you know where you’re heading. Hence, it is important that you have a clear understanding of your goals and objectives. To do this, you must have a deeper analysis of what is happening in present. Analyze the trends and predict possible changes that may take place, say, in two to three years. With this, the transition stage will be easier to deal with because you have programmed or set your mind that these things will happen. Preparation involves notable attempts to effect change, readiness to engage in such changes in the next few months, or the onset of setting goals. 3. Taking actions Change won’t happen if the concerned individual doesn’t take action. In this stage, the individual is ready to engage will power and develop a sense of independence. That is because they have finally decided on things, prepared for them, and are now ready to take action. This is where the actual process of change takes place. For instance, if you want to change the quality of your life, you may start with deciding what actions you have to do to inhibit change. Say, if you want to be a singer to earn more income. Then prepare yourself for the main event. After that, taking action is subject to your readiness to take steps and start applying for singing jobs in different organizations. Keep in mind that each phase in the process has its own readiness. This will be the primary factor that will motivate you to move to the next level. This goes to show that people can make changes by themselves. All they have to do is to follow these three simple steps in the process of change and see the kind of future that lies ahead. As they say, the future is in your hands. 
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